Role of Parents to Solve Teasing and Bullying in Children
Posted on March 12, 2019 by Early Innings
Teasing and bullying are two sides of the same coin with harsh effects on the victim. Nowadays it is not just children who are teased and bullied, but this phenomenon is becoming increasingly common in colleges, university, and even the workplace.
Are teasing and bullying one and the same? Teasing is essentially making fun of someone but in a light-hearted, funny manner. Usually, it involves poking fun of the person but never attacking the personality as such. Bullying on the other hands involves attacking/ridiculing a person based on his or her religion, appearance, race etc. So while teasing is usually harmless buying can harm a person’s sense of self and self-esteem. The problem with teasing is it can turn into bullying when the person who is being teased does not wish to be teased. In such cases, teasing can affect a child’s confidence and self-esteem. Bullying can affect a child’s interest in school, activities in school, a circle of friends and the kind of relationships one makes. Teasing, on the other hand, is mostly harmless and a part and parcel of friendships and relationships a child has.
How do teasing and bullying affect children?
The victim will suffer from a lack of self-esteem, be dispirited and lose confidence. They might withdraw from social situations out of fear or anxiousness. They might lose interest in school, an activity class, and hobby class or wherever it is that they have to face teasing or bullying. They might hide the real reason for not wanting to go or do something they normally enjoy doing.
Another impact can be seen on other children who see others being bullied or teased. They might either join in out of fear or avoid being the next target or even choose to stand up against teasing and bullying.
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Role of parents:
Help your child develop a sense of self and resilience that will help them cope with such situations effectively. Talk to your child about both teasing and bullying and how they are not always the same. Assure them of your support so they do not hide such things from you.
Try not to intervene directly with the bully as your showing your child to be weak and in a bad light. This might only expose your child’s weakness and make things worse for your child. In such situations, it is good to be discreet and talk to the teacher without letting your child know. Teachers are better at dealing with such situations than parents.
Lastly, if your child wants your help, assure your child that you will help in every way possible but if your direct talking with the child who is being the bully might not be the best idea as it can have more negative effects for your child. Help your child deal with issues and fight their own battles without always standing between your child and the problem. This way you’re building a stronger, resilient and confident child who can stand up for oneself and say NO when it is needed.